January 21, 2012 - 8:42 a.m.
Missed Un-misted by love and affection what I am left with is a well of resentment and anger anger at myself for allowing you to treat me that way anger at you, for making me believe that I deserved it and that it was excusable and now, you feel entitled to something other than a frosty reception but I snap back, recoiling, when all I see now is
somebody that I used to know 'now and then I think of all the times you screwed me over having me believe that it was always something that i'd done and I don't want to live that way reading into every word you say' all I have left is anger and I don't even want that. I want nothing. To replace any feeling with none. there is no affection left here and without that I don't know that I have anything you could want or understand. you don't seem to remember how badly you handled everything after our break up the calling me at 8 am to tear apart and disparage me to take every weak spot you knew of and jam words into them, looking for the place you could jab so deep that you'd hit my heart, exploiting the past to excuse it and everything since, the grabbing me by the arm to talk in bars, the passive aggressive baiting of people I have known since you've been gone, the attempts to undercut every step away from you and the escalation to insults when you didn't get the reaction you were looking for and still sometimes you manage to herd me back into the part of my head that responds the way you trained me to feel apologetic that I have feelings about your actions that are not the ones you want to hear about or take responsibility for. You have tried, time and again, to overwhelm the defenses you trained to be lazy with regards to you. Retreats, too late, sleep walking guards who never saw it coming. I trusted you when I should have remained at arms length spitting distance from the start. You don't realize how awful you were to me because you're better at blocking these things out than I am. I wish I had your skill. "I am a good person," was your refrain but a good person doesn't do this. It isn't enough to want to be good. Wanting and being are not the same thing. And like an alcoholic who wrestles their desire and weakness, I have overcome you in stages Stepping closer each time to staying sober each time a glass is put in front of me you are a glass that can only look empty, but you seek to fill yourself to have all of the past you remember come rushing into the glass to tempt me towards the sip that will warm me with memories of times that have since been drained of their happiness I had a happy time with that asshole. Not the fond recollection you were looking for. I don't know how you kept it up for so long. And we did manage to have so many good times in spite of you. I was a different person then. You found me ruined and fixed me to be the perfect shape to hide yourself in and when I was all better you went to great lengths to keep yourself inside me I could not stand without you - you would have me believe. take ownership of what you have broken, like you took ownership for making me in the first place. You still scare me sometimes, when I realize that the lines are still there the lines crossed redrawn, patched and painted over from every time I shattered in your hands I was not safe but I thought that I had nowhere else to go And so often I was pushed to desperation that to protect myself from those feelings I tried to let them go and pretend I didn't feel them but they were the first thing that came knocking when the door closed behind you and now you still manage to make me feel accountable for how you feel when I've finally started to own my own life what were you hoping for? how can you have forgotten what I can't? You turn it around and make it about me calling war, waving the wrong colour flag, turning a cold shoulder when I want this silence, hands empty, weight gone. you show up, uninvited, expecting the reception of a welcome friend, when you are just a stranger on the street, the only safe way to pass you . you make me feel hostile, and hold yourself aloof of the cause and reason what could I possibly feel for someone who has denied me the right to feel angry at being physically and emotionally torn up and crushed cliches that you respond to by denying them by holding hands up in the air claiming that because there is no blood there was no crime there is more than just a subtle imprint there you prey on the memory of feelings, but you are not getting the reaction you wanted when, unblocked, the path leads most swiftly to anger, indignation and a self-possession you can't recognize if you had ever really wanted anything more than to look yourself in the face without seeing shadows of someone else you would not blot out the words and blood alcohol, the temper and the fist that put us here so far away within arms-length back turned and lights out anger is more than I wanted to feel but you don't want me to feel nothing
but numbness the desired state is still cold and vulnerable because caring about something when it is not you makes it into a target and you will hit and take aim until the frozen animal, caught in your sights, headlight-still, playing dead shudders and dies... or follows you home. I should have seen you for what you are, but a hunter myself, I did not see you coming you will not accept silence but you will not like these words. And so you shoot into the air to stir up game, - just to hear the sound.
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